Monday, February 27

Pissed Off!!!

If you are a regular reader of my blog you know that in 1999 I lost my third child. The state of Florida is in the process of considering changing the laws about issuing birth certificates to parents of stillborn babies. I spent the better part of yesterday sending emails to many representatives and senators. I have gotten several responses. I am prepared for negative reaction but I was expecting it from a male not a female. Not sure why but in my mind that is what I was looking to see. I am going to ask you all the question I asked them... How can you die if you were never alive?!
Click here for a law dictionary definition of death. Now here is my letter to the representatives and then the response that has me so pissed off. Of course my name has been changed to protect my identity on my blog. Not sure really what I am looking for here but if your opinion is that of Mrs. Gannon please refrain from commenting on this post as I can not and will not debate this with anyone.
To the Honorable Anne M. Gannon;

RE: House Bill 439

Very soon, your committee will discuss Bill 439. I am asking that you
vote YES on this important legislation.

Here's why:

Florida law does not allow for a birth certificate to be issued to a
mother of a stillborn child; yet these same parents receive an infant
death certificate.

How can you have a death certificate without a birth certificate?

My son Jakob was born still on September 23, 1999 at 41 weeks
My son died due to unknown causes. I can tell you that two days before
delivered my son he was alive. My son moved, kicked, and quite
frequently had the hiccups. When we had an ultrasound he saluted us,
blew bubbles, and closed his legs tightly so we would not know if we
were supposed to buy blue or pink. My two older children felt him kick,
sang him songs, and celebrated his life because they knew soon they
would be holding their new baby.

After enduring the ultrasound to tell me my son had died, 14 hours of
labor with stronger than normal doses of pitocin to encourage
contraction, I gave birth to my third child. My son was a perfect 9lb
2oz 22in long baby boy except he was not breathing. I left the hospital
the next day with a small purple box, 5 pictures and arms that ache now
as I am typing this letter to you.

My husband and I were devasted to find out that the state of Florida
not recognize our son's life. We only found out through our funeral
that we would not receive a birth certificate. The man was very nice
offered to get us additional copies of the death certificate. My
question was how can you die if you were never alive.

So I am asking you to vote yes on this bill to not only bring closure
my family but to the 1,750 families that have been affected by
stillbirths annually in the state of Florida. Please feel free to
contact me with any questions or feedback on this bill.

Respectfully yours,
Tampa, Florida

Ms. Beanhead, I would support a stillborn certificate but not a birth
certificate. I do understand what you are saying but issuing a birth
certificate is just as bad as not issuing one. If you check Black's
directory you will see the definition is to be born alive the child
have been still in a living state after having wholly quitted the body
of the mother. Rep. Gannon


Blogger luvmykyleigh said...

I am livid. I'm upset. I'm crying. You know how I feel on the subject and that woman could not have wrote a more insane response. Karma's a b*tch.

I love you, your hubby (I won't name names), all the kids, INCLUDING my nephew Jakob. No matter what these IDIOTS think, he lived just as he passed and he SHOULD and WILL be recognized for his life, no matter how short.


Stay positive and keep up the fight. Let me know if you need my help in ANY way. You know I'm up for it.

1:42 PM  
Blogger TNChick said...

I'm on your side, girl. If they issue a death cert because the baby doesn't survive life - they must acknowledge the live with a BIRTH cert. too. Argh.

I'm sorry. If you need to start a petition, I'll sign! :)

4:49 PM  
Blogger Alison said...

Here we have live birth forms. You would think that they would have something similar for still births. The idea of not acknowledging the birth is ridiculous.

6:03 PM  
Blogger WendyWings said...

:( I am so sorry, we don't have a birth or a death certificate for our Zac but we didn't actually want one or apply for it. I am pretty sure we only get a death certificate here also though.

11:26 PM  
Blogger Bumbling Bav said...

Oh I am so upset! How horrid is she! I would love to take her "Black's Law directory" and smack her upside the head.

1:09 AM  
Blogger Evey said...

I am with you on this also. And like Andrea I would also love to slap her upside the head with that book.

12:46 PM  
Blogger Better Safe Than Sorry said...

this is so terrible. you've done a wonderful letter.

9:53 PM  
Blogger Mama M said...

Your letter is a wonderful testament to your son, and an amazing show of courage on your part. I hope many others will write letters as well!

4:18 PM  

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